Notes on being understood.

On travel, language, culture, and the small human moments that happen when the barrier finally disappears.

Health

Eating out with a food allergy abroad, without the anxiety

A serious allergy shouldn't shrink your trip to hotel breakfasts. How to communicate it clearly in another language, and be certain you were understood.

Comparisons

Google Translate is fluent now. It still isn't native.

Google Translate now speaks out loud in real time, and it's fluent. Here is the gap it still doesn't close in a real conversation: fluent is not native.

Travel

Getting around Thailand when you don't speak Thai

Bangkok markets, island boats, street food, and tuk-tuks. How to move through Thailand and actually talk to people, with no Thai beyond sawasdee.

Relationships

Meeting your Thai in-laws when you don't speak Thai

The first meeting with your partner's family is a lot, more so across a language. A calm, practical guide to showing warmth and respect when the words aren't yours yet.

Relationships

Falling in love across a language barrier

Two people, not much shared language, and a whole relationship to build. On loving someone before you have the words, and the moments that need to land.

Travel

How to talk to locals in Japan without speaking Japanese

Japan rewards the traveler who tries. A practical guide to real conversations, from the konbini to the izakaya, when your Japanese stops at konnichiwa.