Notes on being understood.

On travel, language, culture, and the small human moments that happen when the barrier finally disappears.

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What gets lost in translation, according to linguistics

Why a grammatically perfect sentence can still land wrong, explained through real linguistics: politeness theory, pragmatics, and the limits of machine translation.

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Comparisons

Best translation apps for Japan, compared

Google Translate, DeepL, and the rest, honestly compared for a trip to Japan, plus the one thing they all miss when you actually need to talk to a person.

Etiquette

Getting politeness right in a language you don't speak

The same sentence can land as warm or rude depending on one word. A guide to register, formality, and why being understood is about tone as much as vocabulary.

Relationships

Dating someone who doesn't speak your language

The early days are hard enough. How to actually connect, flirt, disagree, and be yourself when you and the person you like do not share a first language.

Expat

Living abroad when you don't speak the language (yet)

The trip ends; living there doesn't. How to handle the hundred small frictions of building a life in a country whose language you're still learning.

Travel

Ordering food in Japan when you don't speak Japanese

From ticket machines to the counter-only ramen bar, how to order what you actually want in Japan and enjoy every bite without the low-grade stress.

Heritage

How to talk to grandparents who don't speak your language

You share a family, not a language. A warm, practical guide to connecting with grandparents and elderly relatives, and the conversations you keep missing.